Well if you think about it she was a bit self centred. She wasn’t a team player, she always went off on her own and I get it okay she’s divergent and stuff but yknow people also care about her and it’s not cool of her to not communicate with them if she’s going to do something drastic.
Allegiant mostly. But throughout the whole trilogy she never tells much to Tobias and constantly puts him through this roller coaster of being worried about her and scared outta his mind for her